According to a recent study by eHarmony, over 40% of couples are affected by mental issues. The most common include anxiety, depression and insomnia. Women and Gen Z are most likely to be affected.
Another good sign – over half of the people responded reported that their relationship is making a positive impact on their mental health. This was even higher (70%) for Generation Z. It sounds like feeling as there’s someone on your team, cheering you on every step of the way, can be a powerful way to heal. And we believe it.
Want to get the conversation started, but unsure where to begin? Here are three ways to talk about mental health in your relationships. Let us know what else has worked for you in the comments below!
- Schedule time. By creating the space in each of your schedules, you can both be prepared with both what you want to say, but also create the safest space for sharing. Have some self-care tools on hand for both of you to recharge after, whether that’s time to take a walk, a friend you can call and de-brief with, or time together for you both to reconnect as partners.
- Listen without judgment. Talking about tough things isn’t easy – for either partner. When your partner is expressing their relationship with mental health, try to listen without any other action than receiving the information at hand. Some people listen with the hopes of fixing or try to maintain any innocence in the situation at hand. This may mean that the listener starts responding with their own agenda, instead of simply holding space. Listen as if you’re listening to music – enjoying each note. You can use the time for action afterward.
- Allow for multiple conversations. Because mental health is such a stigmatized journey, it may take time for you and your partner to feel fully comfortable in these conversations. And that’s okay. Take your time in taking it through. Perhaps pause, and continue the conversation at a later date, or choose to check in frequently to allow for more time and space to go deeper.